Quote of the day: Feministing

UPDATE:  Alex Dibranco is a woman.  And I still love her question.  Thank you to Alex for the correction.

Courtney over at Feministing have put together a compilation of various men’s thoughts in response to her previous post, which discusses alternatives to “toxic masculinity” (e.g., Tucker Max).  My personal favorite (either by Courtney or David Pitcher — I can’t tell) echoes sentiments I expressed in response to a local outbreak of domestic violence murder-suicides:

Boys are so paranoid about appearing feminine that they adapt a “culture of cruelty” and retreat into the common male role. How can we raise our boys to break this pattern?

To answer this question, a little further up, Alex Dibranco ventures:

What if everyone just worked toward being a decent (feminist) person?

A simple and elegant rejection of the narrow confines of the unhealthy masculine and feminine gender roles that we expect everyone to force themselves into.  Tal Peretz sums up this line of thought:

…why do we need masculinity, if all the positive traits associated with it are just as easily associated with humanity, and all that’s left as decisively masculine is harmful?

For the record, feminists started asking the same thing about traits associated with femininity decades ago.   With masculinity, we are playing catch up.  Especially so now with more men than ever on board.  The full Rio Declaration is here.


One Response to Quote of the day: Feministing

  1. […] Which is why I’m very happy to see Popular Science, of all magazines, take a lead on celebrating the successes of feminism by highlighting three women geniuses. Just a few decades ago, women were considered “incapable” of scientific thought (shout out to Rachel Carson).  Thanks to successes in feminism, women now have more opportunities than ever to pursue careers in science.   We have a long way to go yet, for sure.  But Popular Science has given us good reminder that we’ve also come a long way in terms of how we view women in society through the lens of history.  So, too, do publications such as Yes Magazine:  Now men spend a full half as much time as women on child care.  In 1965 it was merely a quarter as much time. Finally, I think we need to do a better job in the future of being constructive in our criticism and analysis.  In case you missed it the first time around, Courtney E. Martin is providing a great example of how we can be both critical of the state of affairs and forward-looking at the same time.  Her question deserved — and received — a great response. […]

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